Being swept up in the joy and passion of a romantic relationship can be thrilling, but what happens when that same romantic partner turns into someone you don’t recognise? Suddenly, they’re saying hurtful words, controlling where you go and who you spend time with, and even become physically violent. Sound familiar?
These types of stories of romantic encounters that often turn into terrifying accounts of abuse and violence, especially for women, are sadly all too common and a stark and alarming reality in South Africa.
According to SAPS crime statistics for the second quarter of 2024, of the 10,191 rapes that were reported across the country, 43% of women were victims of a domestic partner, while 129 women suffered sexual assault during domestic violence and 11,896 suffered common assault in their domestic settings.
Understanding Intimate partner violence (IPV)
IPV refers to any behaviour within a current or former intimate relationship that causes physical, sexual, emotional, psychological or economic harm to one partner by the other.
“Many instances of intimate partner violence stem from power and control dynamics, where abusers seek to dominate their partners emotionally, financially or physically. Economic dependence and societal norms further entrench this cycle,” says Jacob Tema, GBV Programme Coordinator at Rays of Hope.
As the world observes 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence, South Africa once again comes under the spotlight, with non-profits like Rays of Hope intensifying their fight against the persistent scourge of gender-based violence (GBV) in Alexandra Township.
Through targeted initiatives, including a training programme on intimate partner violence (IPV) recently facilitated by Agisanang Domestic Abuse Prevention and Training (ADAPT),Rays of Hope staff and volunteers—the organisation is equipping its team to address the multifaceted issue of intimate partner violence (IPV) and GBV with greater expertise and compassion.
“Rays of Hope staff were educated on the dynamics of IPV, including its prevalence, signs and symptoms, and the impact on the individual and the community,” says Tema. “They were also educated on different forms of IPV, such as economic abuse and the new Domestic Violence Amendment Act, equipping them with crisis management skills on how to intervene when a victim discloses abuse at the hands of their partner.”
Supporting GBV victims
Understanding the warning signs of Intimate Partner Violence, is vital and potentially lifesaving. Some red flags to watch out for unexplained injuries, bruises or a loss of confidence, no control over finances, and partners making threats or constantly criticising and belittling the victim.
“Remember, abuse can take many forms, and it’s crucial to be aware of these warning signs to provide support and help those affected,” says Tema. “If you suspect someone you know is experiencing abuse, it’s essential to listen without judgment. That means putting aside opinions and believing their story. You should also offer support by encouraging them to seek help.”
One of the most significant outcomes of Rays of Hope’s efforts is the growing awareness within the Alexandra community. Through workshops, educational campaigns, and the tireless work of social workers, Rays of Hope is not only supporting survivors but also fostering a culture of accountability and change.
Tema highlights the importance of collective action during this period of reflection and advocacy: “Gender-based violence is not just a women’s issue, it’s a societal issue. By empowering survivors, educating the community, and addressing the root causes, we can create safer, more equitable environments.”
Support Rays of Hope to support survivors
Rays of Hope’s work is made possible by the generosity of donors, corporate partners and volunteers. You can contribute to the fight against GBV in Alexandra through secure online contributions here.
